Attraction is a powerful and essential ingredient in all types of relationships.
We need that special spark to help turn our heads and make us question all the possibilities. There are many reasons and theories behind the push and pull that draws us closer to some over others.
The essential thing to keep in mind about attraction is that we can’t force it. It’s something that has to happen without any thought or worry. No matter how hard we try the ingredients that must come together have to do so all on their own.
It’s a magical mix that we’re always looking for — yet can never really be sought after with precision.
Some may say it’s the look that grabs our attention first. While others are adamant to say it’s anything but. Everyone’s got an opinion on the subject because it’s a rather important one. We need and crave relationships. They are essential to our existence.
However, the truth of the matter is that sometimes we can’t really explain what it is that makes us gravitate so strongly towards certain people. Despite the question marks, getting to the bottom of how the magic of attraction works can help us hone in on the people we’re magnetizing towards most.
The phenomenon of attraction can be explained using Astrology. That’s where the magic comes into play.
Our personal mix of planetary influences can help hone in on who we’re going to gravitate towards first. The special mix of energy that’s determined by our astrology can help reveal what personality types we’re always going to be drawn to.
The key to uncovering the who, however, begins when we look at ourselves first.
Once we start to hone in on the special influences that make us who we are, distinct patterns can be found in the people we attract to.
The most publicized astrological method used to determine who we work best with has to do with how our Sun Sign works with another’s Sun Sign. Our Sun sign is the astrological sign our Sun was living in at the time we were born. For instance, I was born on March 3rd and since the Sun was living in this sign on that day, I’m what’s known as a Pisces.
Being an astrologer and a person who needs to look at the whole picture, I’m going to say that sizing me up just by my Sun Sign is a really vague one. I’m complicated and multifaceted just like everyone else. There’s no way that one sign could describe me 100%.
This popular Sun sign method of relationship astrology is not what I’m going to promote here because in my opinion, it doesn’t really work that well.
Everyone’s Sun Sign is only a small fraction of our personal story. I personally dislike not being able to see the full picture — particularly when it comes to relationships.
While Astrology is complicated, I’m going to try to “keep it simple” in order to showcase the attraction factor a little easier. In my opinion, one of the biggest things we need to look at when it comes to relationships and attraction is something called our Rising Sign.
This is the sign that was waking up when we were born and the one that reveals who we are at our core. The Rising Sign is key to who we are but it’s even more important than just that.
Our Rising Sign is the essential ingredient that’s needed to find who we’re going to attract to most.
One of the many reasons why our exact birth time is so important is because it determines which sign was rising when we were born. It sets our personal stage and reveals the story we will tell all throughout our lives.
I also think of our Rising Sign, or Ascendant, as the “door to who we are.” When people first encounter us, they see the traits of our Rising Sign. It’s similar to how we first encounter a front door to a house. We won’t be able to see what’s inside each person, unless we walk through that door. Each of our doors look different and each one holds characteristics that match the sign that was rising when we were born.
Sometimes our perceptions about a person change when we walk through their door. The fancy door we saw initially could lead to a very messy interior. On the opposite side, that simple wood door ends up leading to a fantastic spread of glorious living.
People work in just the same way. We’re complicated and our façade never ever tells the whole story. Our astrology picture reveals what our doors look like in addition to what’s happening on the inside.
Now when it comes to attraction we have to begin by looking at our very own Rising Sign. After we determine that, we can then look at the sign just opposite it. This is what’s called our Descendant and is the key that has everything to do with the relationships we crave —as well as attract.
Our Descendant has a sign just too. Interestingly enough, our Descendant’s sign ends up being the exact opposite sign of our Rising one! This opposite sign will describe the type of person we’re not only subconsciously attracting but the one we truly seek in close relationships.
The Rising Sign opposite theory (my own personal pen name), in my opinion, is the most telling to look at when it comes to attraction and the relationship factor.
So if we were on a mission to find our “perfect” person or just have a little fun in looking at who we attract to most – we have to take a look at the sign that was rising at the time of our birth. The person that we attract as well as the one we’re most compatible with is going to have attributes of the opposite of that sign.
The reason behind this is a simple one. Ever hear of the cardinal rule that states opposites attract? This theory showcases that concept precisely.
We need people who aren’t like us in order to compliment us. Attraction doesn’t work where we’re gravitating towards people who are exactly like us. It’s the exact opposite.
We attract most to the people who are the least like us.
It’s the two halves that make a whole concept. People who are like us bore us. We need a zing and zang to get us going. Sparks are essential and the only way we’ll find them is by looking at people who are different than us.
It’s easy to personally play around with this theory and uncover who we’re attracting to most. Simply go to this free Rising Sign Calculator and enter your birth details. After you determine your Rising Sign, take a look at its polar opposite. That’s going to be the sign that we crave on a subconscious level and the one that we’ll always magnetize towards first.
Once you start taking a look at your Rising Sign, it’s really easy to hone in on which signs we’re going to gravitate towards easiest.
While it’s a perfect scenario to have a person’s Rising Sign be the exact opposite of their partner’s Rising Sign it’s not always the case. Life isn’t perfect and neither are relationships! Sometimes, however, we’ll end up attracting to people whose Sun sign is the opposite of our Rising sign.
For example: If I’m a Pisces and my rising sign is Capricorn, I find that I attract most to people born with the Rising Sign of Cancer (opposite of my rising sign of Capricorn). However, I will also naturally attract towards people born under the Sun sign of Cancer. **Remember that a person’s Sun sign is most often different than their Sun sign.
This particular rule is only one of a multitude of astrological factors that needs to be considered when we look at the attraction factor. However, it’s one of my favorites as well as the easiest to determine without consulting an actual astrologer.
Have a little fun and check out what your Rising Sign actually is.
The Rising Sign is even more insightful if you’ve never felt connected to your Sun Sign.
Once you determine your Rising Sign you might see more of the validity of the astrological concept. Once you unlock the mystery that makes you who you are, you can then start to uncover the mysteries regarding the relationships and attraction factor that surround you.